Regardless of whether it's your initial wedding night or your hundredth, there are measures you can take to ensure the night is memorable. Among these actions, performing an Islamic prayer holds significance. Within this prayer, it's important to express admiration and praise towards your wife.
Recite two rak’ahs before consummating the marriage
Whether a husband and wife are newlyweds or they have been married for many years, it is a good practice to offer two rak'ahs before consummating their marriage. In fact, some of the early generations prayed two rak'ahs before they consummated their marriage. Some scholars consider it a mustahabb to do so.
There is no set time or place to offer the two rak'ahs before consummating the marriage. Some scholars of Fiqh consider this prayer as one that is not regulated by law. Other scholars consider it to be one that is offered in congregation.
If the two rak'ahs are offered outside the Sacred Mosque, it is recommended to recite Surah al-Kafirun in the first rak'ah, then recite Surah Al-Ikhlas in the second rak'ah. The wife should then stand behind the husband in the prayer. Afterwards, she should pour some water around the room.
The two rak'ahs are a part of the wedding ceremony, which is followed by the Sheva Berakhot. They are a symbolic act that signifies a couple's placing Allah in the center of their relationship. They also mark the beginning of their married life in the community.
In the wedding night, the couple's close relatives host a festive meal for them. The guests of the couple vie to make them both happy. After the meal, the groom and bride drink from the other two cups. During the meal, the learned grooms perform d'var Torah. The bride and groom are usually interrupted by singing. The groom is also encouraged to wash the bride's feet in a washbowl.
If the bride is a virgin, she may be nervous about what she is expected to do. She is allowed to perform tawaf around the Ka'bah, but she is not allowed to embark on her honeymoon immediately after the wedding. If she is a second time bride, she may stay for three days to celebrate the occasion.
The two rak'ahs before consummating marriage are a good ice breaker and a good start to the marriage. However, they are not a guarantee that the marriage will be successful.
Take off your shoes and wash your feet
Performing ablution before you enter a mosque is a must and is the perfect time to show off your clean feet. It is a good idea to dress in modest clothing. Similarly, you should wear a scarf to cover your hair if you are a woman. You should also turn off your cell phone before you enter a mosque as you don't want to be interrupted.
The best part of performing ablution is that you get to see your new spouse. You will see her in a mirror that is held between her and the groom. Usually, the groom will put water on her feet to wash them. This is a nice gesture on his part and a good way to show her your love. The groom may also be tempted to steal her shoes for his own amusement, but it is better to play it safe.
There are a number of other things to do before and after performing ablution. Some mosques have specially equipped bathrooms. It is also a good idea to sit in the back of the prayer hall to avoid getting in the way of other people who may be praying. This is also a good time to ask a question or two if you are a little overwhelmed with the whole experience. You don't have to perform ablution on your own, but if you have children, they should be able to perform it for you.
The aforementioned best-detailed ablution procedure may also be followed for a few days if you are traveling. It is not uncommon to hear about people performing ablution for up to three days. In addition, you may want to look into a travel-size jar of soap. Using soap in the shower may also prove to be a good idea. You should also check to see if you can purchase a soap dispenser. This is especially important if you are traveling with children.
There are numerous other things to do before and after ablution, such as putting on a good quality abaya, making sure you have clean socks and shoes, and sprinkling water around the room to avoid dripping.
Praise and admire your wife
Having a wedding night is one of the most important nights in a person's life. While this night is primarily about physical pleasure, it also has a religious component. The Quran tells us about the best way to have a wedding night in Islam.
The most obvious thing to do on a wedding night is to make love. While this is not a required first night activity in Islam, it is still treated with a lot of special care. The best way to make love to your wife on a wedding night is to shower her with attention and praise.
Another thing to do on a wedding night is ask Allah for barakah in the time you spend with her. You can do this by praying for her and for her co-wife. You can also do other things to help build a friendship between the two of you.
Another thing to do on a night of marriage is to have a conversation. You can talk to your spouse about the future of the family, the family's current situation, and other important topics. You can also discuss how to seek Allah's pleasure in the future. You can even have a conversation about how you seek His pleasure in the present.
Another thing to do on a marriage night is to have a couple of conversations about the marriage. This can include your spouse's favorite topics and family matters. You can also talk about what you want to do in the future. This type of conversation is best done during the night, but you can also have a couple of small conversations during the day.
A marriage night is also a good time to recite the Quran. The Quran instructs us to remember Allah and His signs. You can also use dhikr to remember Allah. This is a good way to remember what Allah has taught us. It is also a good way to arouse interest in Islam.
A wedding night is a sweet memory for you and your wife. It is important to keep this in mind when you are planning for your wedding night.
Avoid having sex on the first night
Whether or not you should avoid having sex on the first night of marriage is a very personal decision between a bride and groom. Some poskim believe that it is better to postpone intercourse until later, while others believe that it is necessary. Some consider the first night of marriage to be a time of sexual pleasure for both couples. However, if you are unsure of what to do, you can always take the advice of a professional.
Shakh records the standard practice of couples not having intercourse until at least two to three days after their wedding night. However, Shakh does not give a reason for the practice. He also gives an opinion against the Rashbam, a Rashi school, which permits sharing a bed on the first night of marriage.
According to Nodah BeYehudah, the first act of intercourse is a mitzvah. The argument for this statement is based on Tosafot, who state that the first intercourse creates a bond of emotional commitment between a husband and wife.
Rav Moshe Feinstein believes that the first night of marriage is an obligation for both the bride and groom. He also believes that it is important to discuss sexual behaviors with the new spouse before the marriage. This will help them to feel more confident and comfortable about the beginning of their marriage.
The first act of intercourse after a chuppah is the greatest obligation of the onah. It creates a bond of emotional commitment and a strong emotional connection between the husband and wife. This is a higher obligation than withholding sex or leaving on a trip.
If you are unsure about whether or not you should have intercourse on the first night of marriage, you can always consult a professional. Some poskim also believe that it is a mitzvah to delay intercourse for several nights. However, this is only considered a mitzvah if the couple has expressed an intention to engage in sexual activity. In this case, the couple can still enjoy sexual moments in the future.
No matter what your beliefs are about avoiding having sex on the first night of your marriage, you should always take the new wife's feelings into consideration. If you want to enjoy sexual moments in the future, it is important to take the time to establish a safe and healthy sexual relationship.
